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Friday, May 02, 2003
Another stressful day revising for exams!! *sigh* Trusts is driving me nuts!! Reading Quistclose trusts....why must Lord Millett disagree with what other judges hold? And make life for us so complicated and difficult?! I mean he disagrees with almost everything other ppl say......has his own views and then writes some long-winded article for us to suffer! *wails* =( How I wish exams are over and I can just relax and have fun....But it's gonna be one more week before my first paper.......scary thought!!
Nothing much to say for today....Better start work again.....
Thursday, May 01, 2003
Quite a productive day today...hope whatever I read will stay in my head! hehe...was reading the juicy bits about what happened in "I'm A Celebrity....Get Me Out of Here". It's a reality TV show where they put some British celebrities in the jungle and they have to do weird challenges to win food for the team, with cameras braodcasting them to the world....I personally think they have gone too far in this type of reality shows....Survivor was still ok. It was the pioneer of them all, but at least it doesn't have outrageous and should i say 'dangerous' challenges.
In "I'm a Celebrity", the first day, one guy (ex-footballer) had to endure having worms, cockroaches, insects, larvae, maggots etc. poured into his pants!!! YUCKS!! I mean how gross can they get? It's sooo icky and 'geli' !! *grimaces* He did it 7 times and stopped when the next thing to be put into his pants was rats!! Ohh gross!!! I mean it's not only gross but it's dangerous as well....cos he got stung and bitten a few times during the whole saga.
Then they had Daniella Westbrook (Eastender actress) swim through crocodile infested water to win food for the team again! But this time, there were some fake crocos and the real ones' mouth were taped. But then I think this is totally dangerous as well! During the thing, several poisonous snakes were disturbed and slipped into the water....double danger!! Luckily she got through that ordeal, but it was a harrowing one indeed.
Yesterday they had a guy (Wayne Sleep) crawl through a tunnel infested with rats!! Not only that, he was strapped with waffles (the rats favourite food!!!) *wide-eyed* Yes, you read that right....it sounds so cruel and it's like a torture having to crawl your way with rats all over you. And now they are scrambling above your head and body nibbling on the wafffles.Hmm, maybe accidentally nibbles the guy's flesh as well thinking they are waffles!! Yikes!! Really crazy challenges and again think it's dangerous. What if the guy gets rabbies or something? Germs??
Here's the picture of that guy with waffles and rats all over him!!
Well, all these are pure nonsense....just a very extreme way to get audience and get their ratings soaring. Personally I feel disgusted by the whole thing....if they want a jungle challenge, go do something jungle-related, like in Survivor......say swim and trek through the jungle seeing who's the fastest....etc, etc. Not all these crazy challenges!! *Sigh* Wonder what those ppl will come up with next?
Feeling disgusted at the moment cos trying to imagine worms and maggots and cockraoches in your pants!! *shudders* Shall not think about it already.....getting goosebumps!! Hmm, and right now as I am typing I can hear some stupid idiot talking on her mobile sooo loudly that I can hear everything she is saying!! And she's on the ground floor!! Doesn't she have any shame...all of us can hear what she's saying....*tsk tsk tsk*
Wednesday, April 30, 2003
Read that from here. Check it out yourself if you wanna know more. Poor fishes...they can't scream or show fear so we assume they don't feel pain. Poor things! Imagine someone hooking you up by your mouth. Ouch! That hurts!! Maybe now they should consider reducing fishing or do something with the way they catch fishes. And fishing is a popular hobby!! Just like hunting, and now there's a big hoo-haa about banning fox-hunting.....shld they also ban fishing in the future?? hmmm.....*ponder*
This morning I woke up to the radio. And as my sleepy body tossed to my side, trying to drown away the sound, I overheard the topic they were dicussing on BBC Radio 4....They were going on about long-term relationships and marriage. They had callers calling in to discuss about their experiences and also a guest speaker on air. The stories they told were quite interesting. The discussion so piqued my attention, that I actually woke up to listen to it intently (usually I will just continue sleeping! =P hehehe). The stories ranged and varied.
One caller told of how she initially feared sharing the same house, what more the same bed with another person...They had conflicts over how they decorate the room and house, how much things each of them had and etc. One caller said that she sleeps in separate bedrooms from her husband, despite being married for so many years with kids! I mean, it's just not normal for a married couple to sleep in separate beds, not that it's wrong, but it's just that it's unusual....She said that they both snore and were insomniacs...eg. she would sometimes get up at 2am to read a book! So, it gradually evolved that she would sleep in another bedroom and it has since become an everyday thing. Well, there's really nothing wrong in that for very practical reasons like you might disturb the sleep of your partner etc....but then I think that if I were married, I wouldn't want to sleep in separate beds. I think I'm a person who needs physical closeness....a good cuddle and hug and waking up every morning to see the disheveled and sleepy face of your partner is kinda nice and sweet, although their breath may make you run a thousand miles away!! hehe.....but I think that's part of married life. You should be able to face your significant other in any circumstances....and physical closeness is vital to the relationship. A kiss and cuddle could go a long way. That was also the opinion of the guest on radio this morning.
Then there was a woman who got bored of her marriage and went abroad and had several short-lived relationships. Then only she realised that the grass on the other side was not any greener....and she returned to her grateful husband. Then there was one who caught her husband cheating on her, but then they somehow got over it and they have a fantastic marriage now. However, she gave one piece of useful practical advice: "However much you think your marriage is fantastic, never think that nothing could go wrong. Trust your husband as much as you trust him when you married him: 99.9%. Cos you'll never know and you need to be cautious and alert for your own good". I think I quite agree with that and the same applies to wives as well. (not being sexist here!)
Every marriage can be very different from each other. There was one woman who said that she and her husband lead, to the average person, a somewhat boring love life. Among other 'boring' things..... she said that her husband and her would complete a crossword puzzle every night before they sleep. They would be very happy and would be giggling away and having their own sense of fun. To them it was a form of 'foreplay'!! (hmm....okayyy) Then she said that still her mariage lasted for so long and that they are very happy together. I guess marriages will differ in forms. A marriage is very individual to the parties involved. The most important thing is that both know what they want and are willing to compromise for the sake of the relationship. Oh yea, and I don't believe in the "7-year itch" hehehe......I think it could be any year cos the trigger is some crisis or event....you don't need 7 years to suddenly find the relationship boring or unfulfilling.
The programme ended with a caller who has been married for 46 years!! (wow!! that's long!) She said that although she and her husband are poles apart, they get along really fine. The key to a successful marriage or relationship is respect for each other. That's the key ingredient. I really agree with this statement. Once you have that respect, it will manifest itself in everything you do, be it the way you treat your partner, how you talk to them, how you will compromise, forgive and forget and most of all, being able to live with each other and spend happy times together. It all boils down to respect. If you respect that person, you will not even think of hurting him/her....you will want that person to be happy and you can do a lot to make them happy.
I really admire and respect those couples who can stay happily married for so long. They have put a lot of effort in making the relationship work, through trials and tribulations. It takes a lot to make a relationship work....so much that it is beginning to scare me. Sometimes, I think: How will we know whether the person you think you love is really your one true love? One friend of mine said that you may be happily married for now, but then later after many years you may only actually find your true love and that could be in your second marriage! So all the time you were with the first one, you thought it was true love and hapiness, until you find the second one.......hmmm.....really scary!! Thinking about this sometimes scares me, cos we never know our future and whether that person whom we think we love is actually right for you. There's so much uncertainties and risks....Maybe that's the price you pay for the chance that he/she may actually be the right one.
Oh yea, and after that they talked about mediation in divorces. After hearing that, I really might seriously consider going into mediation in the future. I think mediation is very beneficial, not only to the divorcing couple, but also the children most importantly. And there's a lot of potential for development...especially in M'sia, where I think this concept is not very popular or well-known yet. But in UK, it has been working quite well and still there's room for further developments.
Well, well......a lot of mature ponderings and discussion above. Hope it didn't bore you. Even if it did, it still doesn't matter cos this is my blog!! hahaha....so, any form of weird ramblings or rantings are acceptable!! =) *boo!* hehehe......If you have anything you wanna add, or if you agree or disagree with what I think, feel free to tag me.....hehe, I will read them of course, and unlike Aki, I do not restrict the freedom of expression! *tsk! tsk! tsk! Aki* =P hehehe.....well but of coz no insults or personal attack...only constructive criticisms pls, if any.
Today's the due date for IP assignment!! Wooohoooo!!! Finally got rid of it!! =) Cheers! *gulp* Back to revision now! *sigh*
Monday, April 28, 2003
Just had my dinner....and while I was eating I checked my email and came across this forwarded email. The story in it was very very touching, it made me cry. I will share it with you...
Red Roses...
Red roses were her favorites. Her name was also Rose. And every year her husband sent them, tied with pretty bows. The year he died, the roses were delivered to her door. The card said, "Be my Valentine," like all the years before. Each year he sent her roses, and the would always say "I love you even more this year, than last year on this day. My love for you will always grow, with every passing year.”
She knew this was the last time that the roses would appear. She thought, he ordered roses in advance before this day. Her loving husband did not know, that he would pass away. He always liked to do things early, way before the time. Then, if he got too busy, everything would work out fine. She trimmed the stems, and placed them in a very special vase. Then, sat the vase beside the portrait of his smiling face. She would sit for hours, in her husband's favorite chair. While staring at his picture, and the roses sitting there.
A year went by, and it was hard to live without her mate. With loneliness and solitude, that had become her fate. Then, the very hour, as on Valentines before, The doorbell rang, and there were roses, sitting by her door. She brought the roses in, and then just looked at them in shock. Then, went to get the telephone, to call the florist shop.
The owner answered, and she asked him, if he would explain, Why would someone do this to her, causing her such pain "I know your husband passed away, more than a year ago," The owner said, "I knew you'd call, and you would want to know. The flowers you received today were paid for in advance. Your husband always planned ahead, he left nothing to chance. There is a standing order, that I have on file down here, And he has paid, well in advance, you'll get them every year. There also is another thing that I think you should know; he wrote a special little card...he did this years ago. Then, should ever I find out that he's no longer here, That's the card...that should be sent, to you the following year."
She thanked him and hung up the phone, her tears now flowing hard. Her fingers shaking, as she slowly reached to get the card. Inside the card, she saw that he had written her a note. Then, as she stared in total silence, this is what he wrote...
"Hello my love, I know it's been a year since I've been gone, I hope it hasn't been too hard for you to overcome. I know it must be lonely, and the pain is very real. For if it was the other way, I know how I would feel. The love we shared made everything so beautiful in life. I loved you more than words can say. You were the Perfect wife. You were my friend and lover. You fulfilled my every need. I know it's only been a year, but please try not to grieve. I want you to be happy, even when you shed your tears. That is why the roses will be sent to you for years. When you get these roses, think of all the happiness that we had together, and how both of us were blessed. I have always loved you and know I always will. But, my love, you must go on, you have some living still. Please...try to find happiness, while living out your days. I know it is not easy, but I hope you find some ways. The roses will come every year, and they will only stop when your door's not answered, when the florist stops to knock. He will come five times that day, in case you have gone out. But after his last visit, he will know without a doubt. To take the roses to the place, where I've instructed him. And place the roses where we are, together once again.”
Someone who changes your life just by being part of it.
Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop;
Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world.
Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it.
This story is really touching and romantic. Although it is only fiction, you sometimes feel like you would want that to happen to yourself. Makes you think how much you can love somebody and the things you can do to make that special someone feel loved and cared for....It's the effort that counts and shows genuity.
Anyway, feeling very "soft" now....cos of the story....that's it for today.
*sigh* I suddenly feel hungry although it's barely 3 hours since I had my dinner!!! Why?! Hmm, dunno......suddenly have a craving for FOOD!! I suddenly thought of all the food I miss back home.....Hokkien Mee, Mee Soup, roti canai, chicken rice, "wanton mee", egg tarts, red bean dessert, "lin chi kang", "siew pau", "lo mai kai"....*sigh!* I am feeling food-sick! =P It's always like this, I will have cravings in the middle of the night, maybe after studying, the brain uses too much energy....then feel pangs of hunger. But this is bad, crave for food that cannot get here.....must stop it!
Feeling so sick of studying...but then no choice, HAVE to revise for exams...and some more it's raining outside, nice and cold to sleep in. But I think I will study for a while more, then I will have my beauty sleep. For now, am happy that my blog looks better than before. Not neglected anymore, but I think more of over-updating! *laughs* hehehe....so rajin, huh?
Ok...that's it for tonight. Maybe will post in the morning or afternoon......when I feel like it, basically! Ciao....=)
Sunday, April 27, 2003
Take the What Cookie Are You? test by Ley
Presenting the handsome and beautiful people...gracing the top of my blog are (from left): Alexander Wang Lee Hom, Leon Lai, Aaron Kwok and the sweet Cecilia Cheung. Hmm, you must admit that they are good-looking huh? Besides that they are also talented people. Especially Lee Hom, he's a really talented fella, composes his own songs, plays the violin, won awards since he was young (in his teens)....etc.
Hopefully they will be gracing my blog for quite a while! Will change them when I feel like it...=)
This is supposed to be for Saturday 26th April!! Too late in blogging, caused it to become a post for Sunday....arrrghhhh!!
Okay...today was a totally boring day at home. It was kinda cold and gloomy here the whole day ever since morning...The weather has took a turn for the worst....not sunny anymore these days. But then I hope it will be back to sunny and cool very soon! =) Spent the whole day studying....*sigh* Took the occasional break to eat, surf net, check email and loaf around....then just now Aki called me hehe, talked to her for quite a while, about 45 minutes!! Hmm, time flies when you talk to your friends esp. one like Aki, me and Aki always got a lot of things to talk about!! =)
Well, then had dinner and had a nice shower, then back to work...nothing much to say or talk about today. Feel stressed and really need to pressure myself to work hard every second so that I spend my time productively...
That's all for now...
